You’re So Lucky


Thoughts of a Chinese Adoptee

I was told my Chinese name that my orphanage in Guixi, China meant beautiful, lucky girl. I’ve been told by numerous people that I’m so lucky to have been adopted in America. I’ve even been told, ” you would’ve just grown up poor or a rice farmer if you have stayed in China”. Luck is a funny word to describe adoption. Luck is defined as “success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.” I am lucky in some ways and I acknowledge that. I am lucky to have been raised by parents who love me. I am lucky to have been able to go to a private university. I am lucky that I grew up in a safe and healthy household. But being told you’re lucky you’re whole life makes me feel that I also have to be grateful. I have to be grateful I…

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Silence Is Deadly

One of my posts from September 4, 2018 Over the years, a few people have asked me to change or take down certain posts I've put on facebook. They've said to not broadcast such personal things, to keep my dirty laundry to myself; it's not for the public to see. I disagree passionately, and here's... Continue Reading →

Fight For Air Climb – March 24, 2018

(Written on March 24, 2018) Sitting in the Omni hotel where we have many memories, I just finished the fight for air climb, a stair climb organized by the American Lung Association to raise funds for lung disease. I didn't think I would be at my best because I haven't had any motivation or desire... Continue Reading →

Happiness – Lindsey Stirling

Lindsey Stirling has overcome a lot of obstacles in her life. Her story, her book, and her movie have helped and are still helping me through my own. So when I found out she was on tour and one of her shows was near me - August 2018, Brave Enough Tour with Evanescence in Mansfield,... Continue Reading →

We Are Adoptees.

HEY, YOU. Yes, YOU. All of you non-adopted people. None of you know what it's like to be adopted. No one expects you to, either. You can't possibly understand fully because you are not adopted. However, there are a few things I would like to address, and hopefully clear up.You don't know what it feels... Continue Reading →

Reading “The Primal Wound”

I have always been open about my adoption, as has my mom. Though perhaps I have been more so. However, I never explored my feelings about it or the psychology of an adoptee because it has been drilled into me, as it has for other adoptees and the rest of society, that it doesn't matter... Continue Reading →


Jasmine's new song "Speechless" in the live action Aladdin speaks to me so, SO much as an adoptee, as a victim of narcissistic abuse, as a woman, as a child of a rich man. I've been listening to all three versions nonstop (there are part 1 and part 2 from the movie, and Naomi Scott's... Continue Reading →


Hi, everyone! Welcome to my head. I hope it doesn't scare you off. I've been writing a blog on and off for a year on Wix but decided to move here due to a friend's suggestion, and changes Wix made that I dislike. I'll be moving my older blog posts over here and writing a... Continue Reading →

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