For the ten year anniversary of finding out about and getting in touch with my biological family, I wanted to do something special, but I’ve been struggling with it. Every year I write a sweet little happy anniversary note to my family, and we celebrate. Last year we celebrated it together in person for the... Continue Reading →
Yet Another “Be Grateful” Post
This. Is. Horrible. Do not do this to people. I had five years with my birth father, Rick, and even though they were five long and incredible years and I have many amazing memories with him, I could have known him much longer. I could have had more. I AM grateful. Very grateful. But don't... Continue Reading →
Gotcha Day
Yeah. I hate it. I mean no offense to my friends who use the term, but as an adult adoptee who has gone through the adoptee fog (is still), I have to say I find it tactless, insensitive, childish, and rude. It makes me, personally, feel like I'm a thing that was obtained. Gotten. Purchased.... Continue Reading →
Drawing Boundaries
This is so true. For everyone, but I'm speaking specifically for coming out of the fog of adoption. I've been setting boundaries since my mom died almost three years ago, and have been slowly setting more and more as I discover my true self and what I'm unwilling to tolerate. People who knew you as... Continue Reading →
Reading “The Primal Wound”
I have always been open about my adoption, as has my mom. Though perhaps I have been more so. However, I never explored my feelings about it or the psychology of an adoptee because it has been drilled into me, as it has for other adoptees and the rest of society, that it doesn't matter... Continue Reading →
“Speechless”
Jasmine's new song "Speechless" in the live action Aladdin speaks to me so, SO much as an adoptee, as a woman, as a child of a rich man. I've been listening to all three versions nonstop with chills. This song affects me deeply and I think a big part of that is because I have... Continue Reading →
Welcome!
Hi, everyone! Welcome to my head. I hope it doesn't scare you off. I've been writing a blog on and off for a year on Wix but decided to move here due to a friend's suggestion, and changes Wix made that I dislike. I'll be moving my older blog posts over here and writing a... Continue Reading →
The Adopted Paleontologist 