"The actual imposters will never feel imposter syndrome."I've never heard of this before, and reading it felt so validating. I've been saying I'm bisexual ever since I started going to a women's college fifteen years ago. I thought that maybe it was because I was exploring, but no, I was definitely attracted to certain women... Continue Reading →
My Story – Written For My 10 Year Reunion Anniversary
For the ten year anniversary of finding out about and getting in touch with my biological family, I wanted to do something special, but I’ve been struggling with it. Every year I write a sweet little happy anniversary note to my family, and we celebrate. Last year we celebrated it together in person for the... Continue Reading →
I Will Not Stop Roaring.
Timing is everything. Something my mom's friend once said to me and my husband. Growth cannot be forced. We are different people before and after every transformation, and we never know when those transformations are coming or who we will become. The right timing isn't necessarily when you think it'll be right, and most of... Continue Reading →
Alexithymia
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/mind-guest-blog/the-emotional-blindness-of-alexithymia/?fbclid=IwAR3eCFBKL1_Z7AKjxzoWV3_qG2rxIpj2emJmyIpMmA7HjXvfInpjWCkTLKE "Alexithymia has two dimensions – a cognitive dimension, where a child or adult struggles to identify, interpret and verbalize feelings (the “thinking” part of our emotional experience). And an affective dimension, where difficulties arise in reacting, expressing, feeling and imagining (the “experiencing” part of our emotional experience)."I have always felt ashamed for being unable... Continue Reading →
To Feel Adopted
'Adopted' as a feeling is profoundly complex. Even in the absolute best of situations, an adoptee will feel 'adopted' at some points in their life. What this feeling means to each individual is completely relative and situational, and there is an almost infinite amount of variables. It can depend on whether they know or don't... Continue Reading →
Silence Is Deadly
One of my posts from September 4, 2018 Over the years, a few people have asked me to change or take down certain posts I've put on facebook. They've said to not broadcast such personal things, to keep my dirty laundry to myself; it's not for the public to see. I disagree passionately, and here's... Continue Reading →
Forgiveness – Get The Bolt Cutters
https://www.facebook.com/MAKERShavealittlefaith/videos/209463593054507/ This is an old post I brought over from my other site, from August 2018, edited with some current information. Forgiveness is something I've had a hard time with my entire life. I find it easy to forgive little things - saying things in the heat of anger, forgetting to meet me somewhere, cancelling... Continue Reading →
Reading “The Primal Wound”
I have always been open about my adoption, as has my mom. Though perhaps I have been more so. However, I never explored my feelings about it or the psychology of an adoptee because it has been drilled into me, as it has for other adoptees and the rest of society, that it doesn't matter... Continue Reading →
The Adopted Paleontologist 